Have you thanked your Mom (or Dad) for changing your nappies recently? Kim Cattrall says you havent

I had to take time out from my busy Easter vacation schedule to write a little comment about this article I found on my face book site or somewheres like that.  Ms. Kim Cattrall, former star of HBO series "Sex in the City" sounded off about menopause, not having kids, among other things.  A short little interview was typed up. Here below written out on purpose is the link to the article. 

http://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/entertainment/news/kim-cattrall-sex-starts-in-brain-31102777.html

I hope Im not breaking any copy right laws by having this link up, but scream if I am.  Probably.

My post is more a little rant than a story, so if you don't like that sort of thing, skip it.  

Look, Ms. Cattrall, I really have no problem with you not having kids.  I'm on your side.  We really don't need more unwanted population.  We don't need adults becoming parents if they don't want to.  That may have been true in the past, but I think the survival of the species is "safe" now.  In fact I think the more we populate, the more chance we have of NOT surviving, along with everything else around us not survinving. So give the extra money to charities, no backlash from me on that one.  More power to you.    

However, I just wish you and so many others would give me and so many other Fathers the same respect when we want to stay home with our kids as caregivers, as Fathers, even to the point of foregoing income to do so.  I don't think that same respect is happening.   It puzzles me, "that the young people" Ms. Cattrall knows, can relate to her because she has lived a different life from their parents, but these same young people can`t relate to the fathers who are staying home to love their children more than other generations and.. more than their parents did.  Why should "young people" relate to one form of empowerment and not another?  Even though in fact Fathers who stay at home to take care of the kids while the wife goes to work is empowering BOTH men and women. By pushing the statistic of women as breadwinners up, it helps all.  And by proving that men can do what is thought of as a (traditional) woman`s job, it empowers men. Its progress for all.

And why is it that when a woman "breaks the glass ceiling" and does a traditional man`s job everyone cheers.  But when a man does a traditional "woman`s job" everyone sort of moves away from him and whispers in the corners about him and there is quiet.  I guess he is breaking the glass floor?  What are people going to think when Hillary Clinton wins the presidency and Bill Clinton becomes the "first first man".  Oh boy, lets brace ourselves for the (bad) jokes.  "How are you going to decorate the White House Bill?"  Just a question running through my head. 

Then it is stated, "The star (Cattrall) believes women without kids are no less maternal than mothers."

I respectfully, but strongly disagree with you there Ms. Cattrall.  That just is not true.  I probably won`t be able to back it up with any scientific proof, but I don't think Ms. Cattrall can either.  Sorry, but no matter how many nephews and nieces you have held or baby sat for, no matter how many kindergartens or kids activities you have visited or participated in, its not the same. When you have flesh and blood that came out of your very own DNA, that you helped put together in front of you... It can drive the man in jail to become straight and responsible.  It can drive the drug addicted to clean up and do everything possible to make sure this child, THEIR child gets a much better upbringing than they had.  I wouldn't be surprised if it drove many of the men out there currently staying home to care for their children to do just that in the first place.  Because they were moved to do so.  Paternal instinct. And you don`t have that until that little ball of pinky flesh and blood which is yours, is being cradled in your arms.  So says Max!

I would give Ms. Cattrall the right of reply to understand better how she can say this, but I have a feeling after her reply I would still say, nope, not the same. 

Lastly, I object to her statement: “But listen: I don’t know a kid who thanks their parents for the nappies they changed." Well, sometimes you have to wait for it.  True, teenagers don't usually thank their parents for anything.  Even Twenty year olds are caught up in themselves and their careers and don't think about how they got there, unless it is to complain about it.  But you know when in fact it does come Ms. Cattrall?  When we become parents ourselves.  Then all the pains and the gains that your parents went through on your account come into focus.  Then the memories come back and we think about how our parents did it and its an epiphany.  Then you start to understand and you see the love and the gratitude and sacrifice.   True we see the bad things too.  New parents will just as likely say, "I don't want to do what my parents did" and we want to be better parents.  That's not bad, that is normal.  I fully expect my children to do that too, though I am a pretty good Dad. But  If your father was never around, off in another country supporting the family with a better paying job there, maybe you will say, I will NOT do that.  But we as adult children of parents see much clearer.  We understand why.  And then... we call up Mom and Dad and quite often we say, "thank you".

But its true, we probably don't thank them for changing our diapers, she has a fine point there still.  But what she fails to follow through on is that if they didn't change our diapers they would have become so full that it would have not been hygienic and we would have died and a) our parents  would have gone to jail and that would have been counter productive and b) we wouldn't be around today to thank them.  GOTCHA Ms. Cattrall.  They actually had to change our diapers in order to save themselves Ms. Cattrall.   

All the same, I think I will thank my Mom for changing my diapers next time she calls.  Although I am prepared for her to call me idiot for saying so, because what was she going to do? 

(Published, but pictures will be forth coming still)

Dept: I ll vouch for them, its true. How did that get on the ceiling?

I'm thinking of this scenario and trying to make it into a math equation.

If you have a plastic 5 ounce container of chocolate yogurt on the edge of the table which is less than three feet high, or less than a meter high from the floor, and you hit the container, no brush the container with your hand as you pass by so the container flips up in the air spilling out its contents, how high can the contents of yogurt go?

Answer 10 feet or about three meters.

Yes, believe it.  No your kids did not throw the yogurt container up in the air, or shake it up and down while it was open.  Yes, it is very possible that the contents got on your ceiling by someone accidentally hitting the container off the table. 

Folks, I too would be a nonbeliever, and I would have yelled at my daughter for throwing the yogurt on the ceiling if I hadn't in fact been the culprit. Albeit an accidental culprit (as opposed to an accidental hero)

There was the container of chocolate yogurt sitting on the edge of the table like this. But opened.

  My daughter was snacking on it. I innocently walked by it and must have brushed it with my hand or elbow as I passed.  I really didn't see it go up in the air.  The next thing I felt was wetness on my cheek, and I looked and saw that I had yogurt on my shirt, neck and pants.  And it was on the floor.   Well (sh)  it happens, said my wife and got a cloth to clean the floor before I could.

Then something caught my eye and, "How on earth did it get up there?"  There was a big chocolate yogurt blotch on the recently painted white ceiling, said ten foot high ceiling.  We all looked at it, but nobody had any idea and therefore said nothing.  I didn't even see the container get flipped up.  I didn't see any of it.  But how did THAT up there get up there?  

Here is the blotch on the ceiling.  Proof of the pudding.

So next time you got a splotch of something in a very hard place to be splotched, and your kid says "I didn't do it, it got knocked off the table and got there" please don't yell at them.  Do some simple arithmetic and make an estimation, that yes, it could have gotten there by the way he/she says.  And give them the benefit of the doubt and don't yell.

Anyway, I still yelled at my daughter for putting the container of yogurt right on the very edge of the table so that anyone walking by could hit it by mistake and knock it all over the floor or as the case may be, on the ceiling.  That was stupidity, I told her, and sent her to her room without supper. 

Intermission: Dream, embarrassed at the Post Office

I m going to get a bit intimate in this blog, because I am going to relate a dream I just had the Saturday morning before I wrote this.  Nope, sorry, no sex in it, just a lot of Freud and Jung imagery probably, and hidden messages which I haven't found  yet.  This post isn't about parenting, or patience, or kids in general.  It might be indirectly related to parenting by "delving" into my psyche to see if I am developing fears and phobias which hinder my work.   Is it a persecution complex or the Frye complex of dreaming of being in public in your underwear?  Then again, it s good filler until I get up this magna opus intro on the next problem for Dads as major caregivers.  Read it now, I ll probably get embarrassed that I posted it after a week and take it down. 

From the minute I started reading Kafka, I understood from where he was coming.  Many of his stories were (just) dreams.  The country doctor is the one that always pops to my head as the perfect example. I know this without reading any amount of Kafka analysis because I have the same dreams.  Well, the same structure.  I think everyone does, but most people cant remember their dreams.  Kafka did apparently.  Me too.

Here we go.

I had to go to the post office to do something or other.  Either pick up some mail or pay some bills by sending money through the post.  We can do that here.  I got to the big post office down the street from where I live.  I went in the door and realized I had no shoes on.  I thought to myself, now how could I have gone out the door AND ridden the street car and not known I didn't have my shoes on?  I had some sort of slipper or home soft boot with me, but only one.  So I put it on one foot and stood with that foot over my other non booted, sock foot.  Meanwhile I got a ticket number at the post from the machine and waited for my number to be called on.  The ticket machine wasn't working so well and I got number 55 even though this number didn't seem to be close to any of the numbers coming up, by far.  But I sat down and waited.

It was then that I noticed two more things as I sat in a chair at a desk.  First, the back room of the post office was closed and dark.  They normally do money transactions in one of the rooms.  Maybe it was some holiday, or half holiday and those rooms were closed for the vacation.  The post office did seem a bit sparse on people.

The second thing I noticed to my horror was that I was in my pajamas.  There I was sitting in my Homer Simpson pajama bottoms with my "surf rats" t shirt top.  This was infinitely worse than just forgetting to put on my shoes. I suddenly felt exponentially more embarrassed, scared and self conscious.  I wondered how long it would take my number to be called.  Should I stay or should I go?  Should I get out of here RIGHT NOW and sneak home in my pajamas, taking all the back alleyways of course?  I looked at my ticket number and the numbers that were being called.  I wondered if I could wait on sending this money or if I should do it now while I was here.  How would I feel standing in front of the post woman doing my transactions, paying, IN MY PAJAMAS.  And my Simpsons pajamas to boot.  I thought about it and got more nervous and self conscious sitting there in my night clothes.

Then I looked around again and it seemed that all of the patrons and post people were in some sort of costume also. I racked my brain trying to remember if it was some costume day?  Festival time had just finished, but maybe it was left overs.  About two weeks ago, or maybe a little more, I had watched the carnival parade march down our street.  My littlest girl and I had walked with it for several blocks.  Everyone had been in costume or riding big bikes or walking on stilts.  Maybe they all worked at the post office.  All the people here were in costumes.  There was some lady in a black cape and a big pointed black hat.  Obviously a witch.  I felt like I could blend in a bit better in my Simpson pajamas. "Hey, how do you like my costume?  Pretty fancy eh?"  I made up my mind and decided to scram the post office and forget about paying my bills.

I was getting up from my desk and I was back in my clothes... but with no coat on.  Jeans and a blue old button up shirt.  Cant remember if I had my shoes on or not.  I didn't look.  I wanted to leave this place.   It was haunted. 

I got through the first set of automatic opening sliding doors.  Like many places it had two sets of sliding opening doors, with a tiny interim vestibule between the doors with no purpose whatsoever except maybe to keep the cold or heat out.  I don't know.

 I had gotten through the first set of doors when a big fat guy caught my leg between his two legs in a very tight vice grip and he would not let me go through the second opening doors. I was caught by him in between these two sets of doors.  I started to yell at him to let me go, but he wouldn't.  And the grip he had me in was real tight.  I swung at him with my fist, but he was too far away.  I felt that if I could only hit him with a swing he would be knocked out.  I don't know why I thought that, he was very big and paunchy and had enough fat and also strength and protection to not be knocked out after many punches.  Besides that, none of my swings even came close to his face.  But I kept trying.  Let go of me.  He was so fat, how was it that he was so strong too?  He had my leg in such a tight hold that I couldn't get away.

Finally from inside of the post, inside the other doors, a lady said, give him his plastic back and let him go.  That was the other thing.  The bully had taken a little plastic little... I don't know what it was.  It was something plastic from kitchen ware and he wouldn't give it back to me.  I had to give it to my daughter.  It was hers.  She had gotten it from a supermarket as one of those little kids freebies they give out as promotion.  You spend so much money at the store and get a little ticket and when you have ten tickets, you get the little action figure.  But this little plastic thing... I don't know what it was. It looked like a plastic three ring hole puncher.  The fat bully had taken it from me and wouldn't give it back.

"Give it back" the lady from inside yelled.  But instead of giving that back to me, he gave back my post waiting number 55 ticket which was a stone with the number 55 painted on it set on a stone wrist band.  That was actually very nice art, but it was not what I wanted. I didn't care about my post

number anymore, I wanted the plastic hole punch to give to my daughter.  Give THAT to me, you big fatty and let me go.   The grip on my leg tightened. 

Somehow I got free of him, or maybe he let me go.  I don't think I had my hole puncher with me though.  Either he had not given it back or the situation changed and it was not there anymore and I didn't need to give it to my daughter.  I went outside in a huff and a big black cloud hanging over my head.  It was indeed cold outside and even though I was now in my clothes, I still had no jacket.  I was indignant and crossed the street to wait for the street car to take me back home.

I woke up much more tired than if I had gotten up at 5am and stayed up instead of going back to sleep, when I woke up at 5am.   

To be (there) or not to be (there) helicoptering

I was having a discussion with a relative of mine who has been a university professor for the past 22 plus years and she brought up the subject of a new type of college student and their "hovering" parent(s) that has become more prevalent, say in the past five years.  In fact it coincided with the rise of the cell phone and especially the smart phone (since 2007).  The parents are called helicopter parents.  Professors can always tell the students who are children of helicopter parents.

The term actually was coined  way back in 1969.  It does pertain more so to teenager or college age children, but it also can be used for parents of toddlers and small kids.  Here is a definition article on the term.  http://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/what-is-helicopter-parenting/  

I was quite surprised by the term and had never heard of it before.  I started to think about my own "Dadding" style.  The one sentence that got me concerned was the "always playing with and directing his/her behavior, allowing him zero alone time,...".  I recalled with our first child when it was my days at home with her, I never wanted her to be alone.  This was pre pre school, so she was less than 3 years old.  Sometimes I escaped to the kitchen from playing and piddled around in the kitchen making tea or cleaning up.  But then I would start to feel guilty that I was just trying to get away and I was leaving her alone, and get back to her.  I did not want her to be by herself unless she was napping.


Could I have been a helicopter parent?

In retrospect I think I might have been a bit of a helicopter with my first daughter.  But I think that came about because of other circumstance.  Namely that she wanted me or her Mother to be there.  She always loved playing with us.  I have to pat myself on the back and say I made up some pretty good play scenarios, like trip to the moon in a toy box and riding the horsey etc etc.

The second reason is that in my opinion it might occur naturally in her DNA to be a lower self esteem person.  In other words, perhaps it runs in the family and it is not because of any helicopters.  The ol nurture vs nature argument.  Its in her nature.  Now we have to try to NURTURE self confidence in her if this is true.  

And as the article states, making a 3 year old`s bed is not the same as making a 13 year old`s bed.  I will not be making her bed when she is 13.  Uh.... well, I will say that now anyway.

In the meantime she has matured and likes to do some things by herself AND still likes to play games with her parents.  I breathe a sigh of relief that I am not helicoptering, or even being a drone. 

There was less chance of being a hovering parent with her littler sister.  She always did what she wanted to do.  She has been doing jigsaw puzzles by herself since she was two.  At first she needs my help.  Afterwards she does it by herself.  She has six of them so far.  When I was sick in the last two

months (from this writing) and she was at home, I took a nice nap in the morning while she did all six puzzles.  (Well in fact I could have used a bit more rest, she still did them too quickly.)  If she wanted her parents to be there with her, she would ask us and direct us what to do exactly or play (same as her sister would do).  If she didn't, she would do her own thing.  I found that in the summer.  I was watching her older sister swimming and making sure she didn't go out too far and I realized her younger sister was gone and I started to panic.  But she was just up stairs playing in the sandbox because she didn't like swimming as much.

On the other hand she is a bit scared around new people and hangs around our legs and doesn't want us to leave.  She wants us to be there.  I try to oblige. I play it by ear.  I let my children direct me too.  I figure most of the time they know better whether they want me to be there or not to be there. I even say sometimes now, "No, you try it by yourself first."  

In the end, I say to myself, "Look", there are so many conditions and phobias and hang ups a child can acquire as they are growing up.  Unfortunately every child has to spend some of their adult life getting rid of the "demons" they got when they were a kid.  I don't think it can be avoided.  Lets just hope the time your child will have to spend to expunge the demons is minimal.  As a parent, all you can do is try to be aware of the pitfalls and do everything in moderation. As long as you are NOT  an alcoholic or drug addict or abuser.  If you stay away from those then the worst pratfalls are gone.  Avoiding all the other wrong doors we can open while bringing up children will be more like Indiana Jones avoiding all the death traps when he is stealing the treasure from the Temple of Doom, Right?  Except as mere mortals I think most of us are not going to make it through the Temple to retrieve the Golden Crown.  (Personally, I just hope I don't fall into the basement which has all the snakes in it.  "I hate snakes")     

I ll have to go back and study the other type of parents I should be aware of and not be.  I DON'T have to even consider the "bulldozer parent".  I wont even read the definition on that one.  It ain't me.    

2014: Did Daddy improve?

I got sick AGAIN, on December 28 and am not well to this day I am writing (February 15).  And this one was a doozy.   A flu coupled with a strong cough in the chest.  The flu just saps your body strength that by evening if you haven't had a nap during the day you are just wasted.  And even if you have had a nap.  On the weekend when I like to write in the evening, I just have to go to bed.  I stayed in bed a whole week and still it didn't go away completely.  I have to thank my wife for letting me lie in bed and be 0 per cent Daddy, and 100 per cent "just lying there sick like a dog" Daddy.  Again, I ask myself, how do single parents survive in these situations?  Why do they put themselves through it?

So in the sick department, the family here is not doing so well.  Someone has been sick since October.

I went over all early posts since I started writing in December 2013 and I asked myself, "Have I gotten better as a stay at home Daddy?  As a Daddy?" 

The biggest problem for me to tackle is the patience.  Have I gotten a control on my patience?  Well something I noticed in the past week:  My youngest girl will eat her entire meal, if it is fish or chicken, it just takes a lot of time.  She had a good chunk of fish earlier this week and I just watched her eat it ... with no problems.  I only told her several times to stay in her seat, sit "regular" and take another bite of dinner.   How young should a child be before they can sit in their chair for their whole meal?  Of course its different for everyone.  How old should you let them become before you MAKE them stay seated and eat?   We are working on her.  She will get better.  Its OK.  I'm OK, just both of us keep a handle on it.  She has to keep eating and I just have to keep her directed on her food WITHOUT the adrenaline OD.  It doesn't bother me.

Still my youngest child rather dislikes me to do anything if Mommy is home.  I wrote last year that she wouldn't even let me change her diapers if Mommy was home.  Well she has graduated from diapers but she wont let me choose any of her clothes, let alone put them on.  I HAVE been able to brush her teeth now a couple times.  But the shower and bath is only allowed to be attended to by Mommy, even if Mommy is away, which means we fore go that on evenings when Mommy is out.  But I am OK with that too.  That doesn't bother me.   

What bothers me, I notice, is when the crying starts.  I thought crying was supposed to be a protective measure for kids, it should drive their enemies away or scare the boogieman, but it has the opposite effect on me.  When she starts crying over something I have asked her to do or something I have had to take away because it is dangerous or she is using it wrong or she shouldn't be playing with it, it really riles me.  It makes me madder.  And the patience is gone.  That is a problem that MUST be worked on.  I have to isolate that problem and be aware of it before it will start to happen and then be ready for alternative action and emotions when she does start crying.  Suffice to say, I have identified a problem and I have to be conscious of it and work on it as MY problem.  Not hers.  

Then what bothers me is when she doesn't do what I have asked her to do.  I got spoiled because her older sister for the most part does what she is told to do these days.  But her littler geezer sister, in her own little three year old way, gives me the middle finger and just goes on with her business.  But then again, she is the second born, and the second born always has a bit of the devil inside of them.  And, well, she is three years old, still the terrible twos, it is natural that she wont do what you ask.  But what am I?  Chopped liver?  I am the parent, she is the child.  But you know what? That logic has about much effect on her as showing her the CERN particle accelerator and explaining what it is and does.  This is CERN.  Yeah, so.  I am the parent.  Yeah so what.

That is 50% again. And in my book that is...

Failed.

So what gives?  If I can ask again.

I just have to still learn how to stay calm and control that
testosterone and the resulting adrenaline and the resulting fighting feeling.


The landlord where I rent space for my retail outlet once threatened to kill me. Man, I wonder how he brought up his kids?

It needs more work in the next year.  Needs more work.

   

Cultural Diversity is like being a Dad part I

You will have to pardon me on this post.  Grant me time for a little rant.  Humor me.  It should serve as an introduction to a very big topic of research, but I have to keep it to a couple paragraphs today, and by far not completely thought out.  Very rough.   Furthermore I started thinking about this a couple weeks ago when I was getting sick.  Before I get sick, I always become more emotional.

The thing is, this is a big topic these days, especially in European countries who are experiencing a great influx of immigration.  The question is:  Can we live together?  Many people see more violence among groups and throw up their hands and say, "Why should we even try?" and they wouldn't mind if we end up in separated camps, even gated communities closed off from all "undesirables".  Its a tough question.  And as I said, I have only very rough ideas on this right now not worked out.  But I think these questions pertain and are related exactly to my feeling that fathers everywhere should spend more time with their kids.

How did I get from A to B on this topic?  Easy.  It is strongly recognized that cultural diversity strengthens a population.  A very homogeneous group is in danger of dying out or weakening especially in the face of changes or diseases.  The flowers on the outer edge of the garden are the strongest as they are on the front line.  While the ones in the center are quite weak.  Those that are on the front line or on the edges of the group have to develop more and stronger defenses against the "outside world".  This is very elemental Gregor Mendel genetic research.  In short, those that marry their cousins have very weak DNA and we all know that inter family marriage among the royalty of Europe created some weak, funky individuals.  Colour blindness was the least of their problems.  But if you want something scientific to back it up, read the first couple paragraphs of this. 

Then how do you create a stronger, cultural diversity?  Why contact of course.  The comparable situation of the weak flowers in the center of the garden with no defense or diversity in their DNA is the gated community in my opinion.  Screened and pro rated, the gated community will have no diversity, only like minded same social economic status individuals and families.  No contact with other groups.  There is no way that this type of community can create a strong well rounded individual who is able to see the viewpoints of others or understand others.

The same way, if you, as the father of your children have little or no contact with your children you will have little understanding of them.   Likewise your children will not benefit from your viewpoint during their growth and development.  Seeing from afar is not the same as one on one contact and time spent with them.  In other words, a father who plays an integral part in his children's upbringing with a sufficient amount of time with them will impart on them a greater diversity and singular viewpoint which the child would not get from just a motherly upbringing.  More contact equals a better understanding and a greater diversity for the child and a stronger individual to face the world.  Or here is another short but to the point article and also this one I will put in here even if I may not agree with all in this magazine.   

What I also wanted to go into was the decrease in child abuse.  But I will have to leave that for another one.  But I warn you, it will come.   And to think that all this came about just because I was getting sick.

Again, this was a very short and rough idea post. I shouldn't even post it.  Its not done.  I will make changes to it over the next days or weeks, but I really wanted to get the start of this, the rudimentary, "anfang" of this topic up on the site.  Please forgive my superficial start, but please make a comment of any sort right away.

Was listening to this while I was writing.   
http://monsterrally.bandcamp.com/album/beyond-the-sea-lp

Daddy 40 %, sick 100 %

Ugh.  I finally succumbed.  I had been holding off The Sickness for all of October and most of November, but it finally got me in the end.  Granted, I usually get sick, SOMETIME in November and I nearly made it all the way through, but didn't.

When I was a kid, getting sick wasn't SOOOO bad.   We lived in a two floor house with bedrooms upstairs and kitchen and living room downstairs so the sick person could be sequestered away in his room and the rest of the family went about their business.  My Father hated getting ill and maybe was a bit scared to get sick, so he made sure the unfit person STAYED in their area.  But that was OK with me, because by the time I was in grade school I had my own television in my room and staying home from learning with a semi moderate sickness was fun.  Besides, even in my sick days I still got educated.  

Those were the days of 3 TV channel monopolies and two local stations.  Day time television was either all Soaps or Game shows.  I would like to know how many Citizens were tutored in the ways of Consumerism and Promotion by the oh so wonderful Price is Right with Bob Barker.  I was one of them.  Or else there was Monty Hall`s "Lets make a Deal".   Sometimes I learned more being sick at home then being in school.  Well, you know, important stuff, like the price of washing machines in those days or even...A NEW CAR. 

Sick time in these years is not as fun.

As I said at the beginning I was able to hold it off til the end of November.  Let me tell you, there were some hardcore diseases going around this year as I have written about in my last two posts here and here.    But over Thanksgiving...  I fell asleep right after the big meal on Thursday and it wasn`t because of a full stomach.  I knew it was coming.  I`d had the sore throat the night before, by Thanksgiving that was that.  And I still had to work on Friday.  I told my wife that I was going to be home all weekend and I could take care of things for her because she was on the tail end of a sickness on top of her major sickness she had gotten in October.  But as it worked out, I was the one who slept late and then had another nap after lunch and then went to bed early.  In other words, she had to take care of me.  Rather embarrassing, Daddy.  

Sicknesses used to be even OK before we had kids as I would stay in bed and read and doze off when needed.  Now, nothing doing.  I have important duties to take care of rain or shine, in health or sickness.    

For instance: Hide and Seek, I was it.  Counting to 30 took an extra ordinary length of time.  Funny that.  And playing the Memory game, I got three pairs and both small kids got over 10. Its not the first time my three year old beat me in that game. It won`t be the last.  In the end I couldn`t even take that and I wimped out by putting in a DVD of cartoons and lying on the sofa while the girls leaned against me and watched from somewhat of an uncomfortable position.  Shameless, Daddy.  

Even during the week, if you stay home from work to try to get better, you cant count on being alone.  There may be someone else that is sick that you have to take care of.  Well, at least my wife was here and we took turns between resting and doing duty.  Its all a part of growing older and having responsibilities.  (Sheepishly) I guess.  Instead of just lying there and watching gameshows.  

I love my little girls.  I love being a father.  And I am thankful that I have a wife here and we can share... everything together, good and bad.

Still, growing up and even being sick when I was a kid, had its good side too.   In fact there were many many nice things growing up.   I better get to bed.  Its 11pm and I still have a cold.  Goodnight Johnboy.